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"Why don’t men get cellulite?"
I get this question a lot, so I thought I’d settle it once and for all!
I have a hard time writing the words “flaws” and “trouble zones” without using quotation marks. I think they should come with disclaimers, an explanation, proof of said “flawdom”.
What SILLY words to use for naturally occurring bodily ways to be.
The terms trouble me because….
1. “Flaws” are relative and ever changing. Assigning the word “flaw” to something as common as cellulite is ridiculous BEYOND reason.
Though society gives us a nudge, “flaws” only affect us when we’ve internalized them as such (along the lines of “no one makes you feel inferior without your consent”). Tanned skin, beauty marks, being thin, badunkadunkas - were all “flaws” at one point. Something you find beautiful or sexy, another might not. Using a universal term like “flaw” for what boils down to an OPINION is distorted. Opinions change.
2. I don’t want to influence the perception of “flaws” in others. No girl grows up thinking that cellulite is a flaw: she learns it. I didn’t realize thigh gaps were something some people wanted, until I started seeing them everywhere on Tumblr (still baffles me). There is a period of time BEFORE we learn something is a flaw and before it becomes something to “fix”. By associating things like cellulite, sagging breasts, arm jiggle and other body bits with the words “flaws” or “trouble zones”, we are reinforcing the idea that people SHOULD be “worried” or insecure about them. There’s a difference in saying “this will tighten up your arms” and “this will get rid of your gross, flabby arms”. The latter associates arm jiggle with “gross” & “flabby”, qualifying it if you will.
Really fit arms can jiggle. True story. Power jiggles.
The majority of “flaws” we perceive are created outside of us. They aren’t actually “flaws”, so much as natural states of being… that have gotten a bum rap. Kinda sad, really. Poor thunderthighs.
So, if you can, try to think of the body bits you’re not too fond of as “unflawed”, a natural way to be, a pallet to work with. You CAN change your body, within reason, and using what you’ve got. But there’s nothing inherently “wrong” or “flawed” about pretty much everything we think about as “wrong” or “flawed”.
Big noses, small breasts, disproportionate features, thick legs, flat booties etc. Just ways to be. You don’t have to love ‘em, but there’s nothing wrong with them.
They aren’t flaws. They’re “flaws”.
And that basically cancels itself out. :)
See this picture? This a real person’s bum.
If you look at fashion magazines, movies, television and advertising, you’ll rarely find images of real people’s bum’s. You’ll see photoshopped bums, models posed in positions that hide their cellulite, and photos with superb lighting that minimize it. Real bums with real cellulite are usually shown as celebrity ‘gotchas’, where paparazzi and tabloids zoom in on women’s cellulite as evidence of imperfection to take them down a notch. The message is clear: cellulite is BAD.
As a result, not only do we think our own cellulite isn’t normal (or attractive), we think that having it is some kind of failure, and something that people will judge us for. We hide it, spend MILLIONS on treatments to reduce it, avoid short shorts and obsess over seeing it on other people.
That, my friends, is complete and total bullshit.
The only people who notice or judge people for having cellulite are those that are insecure about their own. You may have noticed this in your own behavior: suddenly, when you see a woman in short shorts and you begin to judge/compare yourself. You see a magazine featuring celebrity cellulite, and your eyes are drawn in a satisfying way.
In any given room, on any given day, NINE out of TEN of the women you see have cellulite. NINE. In other words, those without cellulite are kind of ‘the freaks’. (if you don’t have cellulite, I’m sorry for calling you a freak. I have a feeling you’re perfectly fine with not having cellulite, so I don’t feel too bad. I’m also pretty sure you know I love you anyways).
I know some of you are never going to LOVE your cellulite, and that’s okay. But you need to stop hating it, fixating on it, and letting it control your self-worth. You are NOT your cellulite. Cellulite is NOT disgusting. The sexiest women in the world have cellulite too.
Myths About Cellulite
1. Only fat people have cellulite. It will go away if you lose weight.
False. Anyone can have cellulite. In fact 90% of women have some, somewhere. Supermodels & athletes have cellulite, and while you can improve/reduce the appearance with weight loss, it’s unlikely that it will disappear entirely.
2. Cellulite is disgusting and should be hidden.
False. Our obsession with not having cellulite comes from the bombardment of manipulated images of women who seemingly have none. The fact is, 90% of women have cellulite: it’s as common as having a freckle somewhere.
3. People judge you for your cellulite.
False. They judge themselves. No one looks at cellulite as disgusting, unless they are insecure about their own, or they’ve been brainwashed to see it as undesirable (and want to distance themselves from it). They project those insecurities: it has nothing to do with you (and you need to remind yourself of that).
Now, you can REDUCE the appearance of cellulite, and some of us have more than others. There is no CURE for cellulite, but the most effective reduction treatment is DIET & EXERCISE. Combined with proper hydration, living healthier can help by reducing your overall body fat percentage: less fat to be smushed to the top means less visible cellulite. Creams to tighten the skin, dry brushing, massage and more offer temporary plumping or fat smushing, but they do NOT eliminate or reduce deep cellulite (those with light cellulite may see better results). More importantly, treatments like creams and lasers are temporary solutions: they don’t last forever, and are best combined with diet & exercise. But even if you do EVERYTHING right? You may not get rid of it entirely. And that’s fucking okay.
At the end of the day, what I want you to take away is that you can do your best, but cellulite is NOT something you need to be obsessed over, or something that should dictate how you feel about yourself. Stay healthy, stay active, and learn to love ALL of you.
It’s okay to have cellulite. It’s normal to have cellulite. You can be sexy, awesome, fierce, bad ass, hot, smokin’, important, unique and desirable with cellulite. In case no one’s told you. :)
"I might have a little bit of cellulite. I might not be toned everywhere. I might struggle in this area or that. But accepting that just empowers me.
I’m trying to eat better — which is a struggle. I like carbs. I didn’t [used to] work out. I do now, even when I’d rather sleep in. I’m a firm believer that you should be your best you …
The message [of this shoot] is embrace your curves and who you are. I feel proud if young girls look up to me and say, ‘I’m curvy, and I’m proud of it now.’”
— Kim Kardashian talks body acceptance with Harper’s Bazaar.
A little message from a fitness queen, with a rocking body to die for. Want her body? You better be ready to take her cellulite too.
Here’s the deal: 90% of us have it. And no, it’s not something reserved for the overweight or the not-so-fit. 90% includes…
Not bad company, if you ask me. :)
The only cure for cellulite is good lighting & airbrushing. The only ways to minimize it are through diet, exercise, maybe fancy treatments (that don’t eliminate it mind you), self-tanners & good old hydration. And even that’s not a guarantee (sorry to burst your bubble, but it’s not!)
Some people have more than others (a lot due to genetics), but hating your cellulite is like hating your freckles: it doesn’t do anything but make you feel bad for something you can’t change or control. People with freckles are lovely. People with cellulite are beautiful. Not caring about those unavoidable dimples is freedom.
Those lady lumps that we love to hate, could really use some positive PR. The cellulite’s not the problem; it’s all in the attitude.
My advice? Accept it as a part of your body. Do your best to eat healthy & stay active. Wear your short shorts with pride. Don’t let your lumps become speed bumps on your self-lovin’ journey.
Got it? Yay!
(You know, if cellulite wasn’t what it was, it would actually be a rather pretty name! Like diarrhea.)
Britney is proud of her body - imperfections and all.
The 29-year-old singer made an AMAZEBALLS move and released the un-airbrushed photos from her Candies shoot. She did so in order to highlight the pressure exerted on women to look perfect.
In the photos, you can clearly see areas of cellulite on the back of her thighs, wider ankles, bruises (with all that dancing, she’s bound to have tons), and her yes, her backside isn’t what you’d expect.
The one area that appears to be un-airbrushed? Her face (she’s gorgeous, no?). (Sidenote: Airbrushing is such standard practice that un-airbrushed real photos make sensational news. Crazy.)
KNOW THIS: There is no such thing as perfect. Perfection doesn’t exist, it’s manufactured. And the only flaws you have are the ones you can’t see.
I’m pretty sure that most of you are aware of how much photo-shopping goes into these covers (yes, especially fitness magazine covers). However, it’s rare that the models behind these super-fit shots come right out and let you know that they DON’T look that way in real life, or that their flaws were hidden through creative angles, cropping, airbrushing and lighting.
Kudos to Jillian! Here’s her quote from her facebook page (although I think it’s the Shape photo team who should take credit for the creative concealing).
Ok my May Shape cover is out! I have to tell you this cover shoot was utterly mortifying. I have NEVER shot in a bikini and hated every second of it. Fortunately due to angling I have still managed to conceal the cellulite on the back of my ass.
- Jillian Michaels on her Shape Magazine Cover
Some other tidbits? She eats about 2000 calories a day, gives herself treats once in awhile & hates (yes HATES) working out!
See behind the scene footage of her shoot (and some great details about how she got into shape & learned to love her bod) after the jump!