- Said NO one. Ever.
Promote what you love. Live by example. Help people feel WORTHY and empowered so that they WANT to take care of themselves, with or without weight loss. But pointing out someone’s weight, criticizing their body and communicating how “unhealthy” YOU think it is only makes YOU feel better. Maybe more righteous too. All the science, research, date and information in the WORLD doesn’t justify being mean.
This kind of motivation (IF you can even call it that. I don’t), is popular but does and has done NOTHING to curb obesity or promote health, for the individual or for society. But it does make other people feel bad. Shamed. Less than. Angry. Humiliated. Sad. Hopeless. And a whole whackload of other emotions that you can’t possibly wrap your head around unless you’ve been there. Not exactly the ideal circumstances to promote positive change. If we’re going by numbers, we’re not doing so hot health wise and weight discrimination is at an all time high.
The more passionate we are about something, and the closer it is to our identity, the more likely we are to distance ourselves from things that don’t suit us: weight is one of those things and mocking is a distancing behavior. It has little to do with those being mocked, and everything to do with reinforcing the self-image of those who do the mocking.
So, while it’s very easy to judge others and use the veil of “health” to mask what would otherwise be inappropriate and rude comments, remember that few people hate themselves healthy. If health is your bag, your thing and your passion? Promote the shit out of it. If the goal is to inspire health in others, then be the example. Talk about what you do, what you love, and why it’s important to YOU.
And remember that tearing down people doesn’t make you a more formidable health warrior. It makes you a bully.
And all the science, research and information in the world doesn’t change THAT either.
I asked him to think about the most “sensitive” way she could tell him his penis was too small, his nipples were too big or he wasn’t muscular enough for HER liking. And if he couldn’t come up with a way she could express those things without him feeling even the LITTLEST bit bad about himself, then it’s likely he won’t either.