A quick list of things you can work on this year, that will bring you nothing but ‘awesome’. And none of them have to do with weight loss, losing ‘flaws (always in quotations), or changing your appearance. Those are bonuses and things you can ALWAYS work on of course, but unless those changes are made with LOVE (not hate), they aren’t likely to stick OR make you feel better.
This is about being mother f*cking at HOME in the body you are in, whatever it’s shape. You deserve it. You do. Trust me & thank me later.
Here’s some ways you can START your body love journey.
1. Put down the magazines. Scroll past that site. Don’t indulge in hours of ‘ideal body’ pinning (and pining). Want to feel better about your body? Stop feeding it unrealistic expectations.
2. Re-examine your relationship with the scale. Does it make or break your day? Does the thought of missing a weigh in stress you out? Ditch it. Nothing should have that power over you.
“Eat a cheeseburger”
“She looks disgusting”
“She’s clearly unhealthy. Skin & bones. Gross”
“That’s not what a real woman looks like”
“She’s clearly anorexic. Someone feed her”
“Anyone who thinks this is beautiful is warped”
“She’s just TOO thin.”
“To me being that skinny is just as bas as being obese!”
“Real men prefer women with curves”
“She looks like she’s going to die”
A few comments from The Victoria Secret fashion Show this year. Which I don’t watch, but was bombarded with on social media anyways. The evening of the show, I avoid Twitter like the plague. It’s a body shaming apocolypse, and I find myself disppointed in some of my favorite people whenever they share these seemingly “innocent” opinions. It’s so common to talk ‘bodies’ amongst women, that many don’t even realize or consider their comments as ‘bullying’ or ‘inappropriate’.
“Calling women “disgusting & anorexic” totally changes everything for the better and helps them in the long run”
- Said NO ONE with any insight into eating disorders and body image. In fact, it makes everything soooo much worse.
Just a quick reminder: anorexia is a mental disorder. An illness. A pretty brutal one at that. It’s horrible. All consuming. Shameful even. Devastating in some cases. And so, so misunderstood. Same goes for bulimia and the myriad of other eating disorders out there.
SOME people with anorexia become very, very thin for their frames, and many do not. Some people are naturally very, very thin with no disorder whatsoever. Some people have an eating disorder and remain overweight. Because it’s a mental disorder, it’s not something that can be diagnosed based on appearances alone. There’s also a range in the realm of disorders; some can be milder such as someone who is constantly ‘dieting’ and ‘restricting’…but still eating a little. Perpetuating the idea that only the thin can suffer from anorexia, makes it harder to diagnose the millions of women who have it but are not quite “thin” enough for it to be apparent. Because everyone’s looking for thinness as a sign something’s wrong, behaviors that are actual signs to be worried about often go unnoticed. (language, eating patterns, withdrawal, fixation on food etc).
Can you imagine how many more girls (and boys) would be treated earlier if we stopped focusing on looks and started focusing on behavior warnings and signs? (family members of those who suffer from eating disorders often blame themselves for not noticing warning signs that were very clear in hindsight). By the time most are diagnosed, treatment becomes very, VERY difficult.
Children all around the world are getting hugged a little tighter and more often since yesterday. Hug ‘em harder. Tell them you love them.
Excerpt from “And Then I Drove To Their Schools“…
“Mom. Why are you here?”
I just needed to hug you. I just needed you to know that I love you, that I’m so proud of you, that I’m so lucky that you’re in my life and I love you hard.
“Mom, are you crying?”
“Mom. I have to work. I’m at school.”
I know, schoolwork is very important. Just let me hug you for another second… Okay, go work. I’ll see you after school.
I’ll see him after school. And I can’t stop weeping for those parents who won’t.”
This is so awesome, it HURTS.
Imagine a world where women consistently supported, loved, validated and encouraged each other to be their most awesome selves. Now breathe, and let it sink in that the only thing stopping this from happening…is US.
Funny, too-true and hysterical satire via ‘The Onion’.
Ladies, you’ll LOVE this one.
AKRON, OH—According to witnesses, a tight-knit group of five female friends spent a wild night on the town Saturday, overindulging in emotionally supportive behavior and generally validating the living shit out of each other.
Confirming the women get together at least once a month for an all-out, anything-goes session of nonjudgmental reassurances, 28-year-old Sarah Dotson said the evening quickly turned into ”a total rager,” with the friends sharing excessive amounts of admiration, empathy, and encouragement for one another.
There’s a reason I heart her so much.
Erin from Fit Mama Training (you may be familiar. I share her stuff a lot, and I think she’s the bees knees) posted another faboosh piece on body love, acceptance and diversity. When it comes to loving ourselves and raising ourselves up, we NEED to stop bashing each other and we need to expand our own definitions of beauty.
I’m a girl with muscles. I’m not in competitor shape (that’s not my goal… at the moment), I don’t have bulging biceps or hammies that split into 3 or 4 sections, but I do have muscle. And it looks GOOOOD on me. And it feels GOOOOD to have. I worked for it and I work it. Damn proud.
But there are some people who aren’t down with my body type. In some cases, women have decided (or been convinced) that having muscle is a bad thing. An undesirable trait. A unfeminine characteristic.
That’s complete and utter bullshit.
What you like is what you like: I’m in no position to tell you what your attractive is. But I am here to tell you that there is no right way to have a body. That there are thousands of body types out there, all of which deserve representation, all of which are beautiful, and all of which are real, hot and worthy of the spotlight. I’m here to tell you that curves are sexy, but you can be sexy without them too. I’m here to tell you that muscles ARE feminine, and having them is awesome, but if you don’t have muscles, that’s okay too. There’s no right way to have a body. And nothing makes me angrier than women telling other women how they should be.
The holidays are happy times for most people (even if they’re stressful, they’re certainly NOT unhappy). But for some, the holidays can be a reminder of things lost, life situations that are less than ideal, and a time when you feel more like crying than singing carols.
If you’re one of those people, you might need some extra help feeling okay this holiday season. Try to remember that you’re not alone, that things do get better, and to some extent you can control which emotions you allow into your life and how you react to them.
Tough times never last, but tough people do.
- Robert H. Schuller
75 Reminders For Tough Times via Marc & Angel Hack Life
I don’t care which part you choose (eyes, back, nose, hips, ears, calves, ankles, belly, wrists, neck, boobs, moobs, heart etc.), but let’s spend a minute focusing on the parts we LOVE for a change!
It changes day to day, but my ASS feels magical at the moment. My booty murder mission has been paying off (the extra firmness may have something to do with my booty challenge from Tuesday. Oy). Not only does it feel bootylicious, but beating Zuzana’s time on that challenge was an extra booty-esteem boost that I wasn’t expecting! Long overdue for the top spot, so today ASS wins! Werk.
What about you? What body part(s) deserve a nod?