If you follow my blog, you know that I do my best to try and promote positive body-image (with a little self-love 101). I also try to discourage negative self-talk & body shaming which seems to be making so many of us miserable. It’s a freaking epidemic.
Aside from media pressure, there are a LOT of ways we inadvertently encourage body shaming in our daily lives. Here are just a few.
For one, we use physical appearance as a way to compliment each other and to lift someone’s spirits (You look great! Have you lost weight? New haircut? Love it!). We also criticize each other’s bodies at alarming levels (she’s too skinny, she’s too fat, she shouldn’t wear that, look at her cellulite). Little girls get messages from everything around them: we simultaneously tell them that looks shouldn’t matter, yet emphasize looks all the time. We try to tell little girls to love their bodies, yet criticize ours in the mirror while we dress for work (they’re watching & listening to every conversation you have with your girlfriends about which body parts you hate also).
Every girl learns to hate her body by watching other women hate theirs or hate on each other’s.
We tell little girls how pretty they are, over any other attribute they may have. It’s usually the first thing out of our mouths when we see a little girl, or get a chance to say howdy. Look how pretty you are...
In the article below, the author provides an example of how to take ‘looks’ out of the equation when speaking with little girls. It’s challenging (I mean, they really ARE cute sometimes), but if we truly want ‘looks’ not to matter, we need to stop emphasizing how important they are.
Girl power! This is nuts!
While the verdict is still out as to whether or not children should be weight lifting (there are possible growth hindering side effects for some kids and the safety of the sport has been called into question), this seems to be an indication that it may be rising in popuarity! Children who do engage in weight lifting as sport should always be supervised & coached by a professional trainer, one who’s aware of the possible risks in training still growing bodies.
Controversy aside, this is still pretty bad ass. I get giddy seeing young girls break stereotypes & pursue sports that aren’t traditionally female dominated. Love this!
Congrats to Naomi! Won’t be the last we hear from her, I’m sure of it! Thanks Tasie for sending me the link!
Via Daily Mail
Naomi Kutin, 10, claimed the astonishing achievement after squatting 215 pounds - despite weighing just under 93 pounds herself.
She lifted the staggering amount - which weighs the same as Mike Tyson in his prime - in front of a packed crowd in Texas, USA.
‘She broke it on her second lift of three and didn’t waste her opportunity.
‘She went out there, took her chance and won the right to be a world record holder.’
Naomi - who was just nine-years-old when she broke her first world record - has been dubbed ‘supergirl’ by astonished powerlifters.
She has legions of fans around the world who track her progress through the internet.
And thousands of fans were present to witness the moment she broke her second record at the RAW Unity event - an invitational for elite powerlifters - held in Texas in January 2012.
Naomi, who only began powerlifting in April 2010, reclaimed the record taken from her by experienced pro Ana Geitner, 44, from Germany, in the 97 pounds weight category.
LOVED this. :)
Alie arrived at our 1st-grade classroom wearing a sweatshirt with a hood. I asked her to take off her hood, and she refused. I thought she was just being difficult and ignored it. After breakfast we got in line for art, and I noticed that she still had not removed her hood. When we arrived at the art room, I said: “Allie, I’m not playing. It’s time for art. The rule is no hoods or hats in school.”
She looked up with tears in her eyes and I realized there was something wrong. Her classmates went into the art room and we moved to the art storage area so her classmates wouldn’t hear our conversation. I softened my tone and asked her if she’d like to tell me what was wrong.
“My ponytail,” she cried.
“Can I see?” I asked.
She nodded and pulled down her hood. Allie’s braids had come undone overnight and there hadn’t been time to redo them in the morning, so they had to be put back in a ponytail. It was high up on the back of her head like those of many girls in our class, but I could see that to Allie it just felt wrong. With Allie’s permission, I took the elastic out and re-braided her hair so it could hang down.
“How’s that?” I asked.
She smiled. “Good,” she said and skipped off to join her friends in art.
‘Why Do You Look Like a Boy?’
Just wanted to give a shout-out to my bad-ass nephew and his awesome attitude this Halloween.
This was the first year my nephew went out for Halloween as a diabetic. As some parents know, with all the candy it can be daunting for first time diabetics to head out trick or treating. It’s hard to tell a 7 year old what he can and can’t eat on the daily, let alone on Halloween: the sugar holiday of the year. But to keep him at home while all his friends headed out is just cruel. So out he went, with some rules in place. My sister was nervous, I was nervous, but there was no need.
He went out. Had a great time. He got tons and tons of candy. He came home. He chose the 10 candies he was allowed to keep, then packed the rest in loot bags for his friends and teachers. He then took his bag, went up to my sister… and sold her the rest. For a rather nice profit.
Not only was it a great way for him to enjoy his holiday, but he also became Mr. Popular with the candy he handed out the next day. Plus, he’s rolling in it. Entrepreneur at 7 years old.
In case you needed a little motivation to stay away from YOUR candy (or your kids candy), use his example. It’s not easy for a 7 year old to give away his Halloween candy, but he did. Because it was what was best for him.
Just something to think about!
Well, this is certainly more refreshing than Maggie Goes On A Diet…
Blogger, controversy stirrer, sometimes actor, and Lady Gaga bestie Perez Hilton has written a book for kids about tolerance.
I know, right? But I LOVE it!
The Boy With Pink Hair is a story about a boy born with pretty pink hair, who learns to embrace what makes him, well HIM. The book celebrates individuality, tolerance & self-acceptance.
If you’ve been following my blog, you know I give all of those things mega high kicks and enthused fist pumps.
“I am absolutely elated about this book, which comes from a very dear and genuine place within me. While I can identify in many ways with The Boy With Pink Hair, he represents so much more. This story is about every kid that’s ever had a dream, felt excluded, wanted to belong, and hoped that one day they could do what they loved and make a difference. Today, with this book, that’s exactly what I feel I have the opportunity to do. I hope everyone can share in the spirit of a boy that only wants to bring some happiness to the world around him.”
Not only do I think this is an IMPORTANT book for kids, but I’m kinda proud of Perez too. I am a fan of his blog, but at times it was hard to read (if you remember the old sperm squiggles, you might agree). In the last few years however, there’s been a change in Perez & his site, and this book highlights a ‘coming full circle’ moment that I’ve witnessed from afar. THAT’s inspiring in and of itself. And bad ass. (Plus, he’s looking GREAT, don’t ya think? Looking good BB!)
Well done on this book! You can pick up your copy (or a copy for your favorite kidlets) on Amazon now.
Psst - I also LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Fit Perez for fitness/celebrity news. It’s awesome fit candy & fun information. Would love to send them some of my body-love posts… I should really turn those into videos I think. :)
They say never to start a post with your opinion, but I can’t help it. Personally, I think this little girl is BAD ASS amazing. And the controversy? The by-product of a gender bias that says that little girls shouldn’t engage in aggressive behavior.
Excerpt from MNN.com
NBC’s Martin Fletcher reports on an Australian father who’s taking some heat after he put his daughter in a kickboxing ring with another girl, and encouraged the 8-year-old to continue fighting after being knocked down.
By the way, when they say ‘knocked-down’, they mean she fell. Then got back up. She cried a little (I would to). She wasn’t hurt. They kept fighting & it was a tie. She smiled. That was it. Sensational headline not so much.
Things have changed, and tomboy girls everywhere are free to play their sports, soccer, even baseball to their hearts content. But kickboxing? Too much apparently. We still prefer our girls on a ballet stage than a boxing ring.
We’re not talking about fight club here. We’re talking about age appropriate skills & rules, used with caution, in a supervised ring (take a look at the video below).
Here’s the thing…
Firstly, the girl clearly LOVES what she’s doing (skip ahead to watch her BAD-ASS pushups with a clap!). Her smile says it all.
Second, all children who participate in sports (including dancing) risk injury. In this case, the injury they refer to was not even remotely serious, and did not require more than a few seconds rest. I’ve seen children require more care on the playground than this little toughie needed in the ring.