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Do you have a problem with food?
Disordered eating has to do with an unhealthy relationship with food: it preoccupies the mind and influences behavior. It’s important to know there’s a spectrum: unhealthy relationships with food can be mild (someone who’s always dieting, or feels as though they should or feels guilt/shame for eating certain foods) to extreme (someone with anorexic or bulimic tendencies).
Disordered eating is complicated.
People who diet constantly may qualify. People who are overly restrictive (keeping to exactly 1200 calories, or having to know the calorie content of every food) may qualify. This is about more than simply watching your diet: those who suffer from disordered eating can’t think of anything else. This may mean they miss out on social occasions, stress about weight gain, spend too much time finding ways to lower their calories, over exercise, or have body image issues related to weight gain. On the other end of the spectrum, disordered eating can be related to those who try to gain weight unhealthily as well (like this lady).
EDNOS is a term used to describe eating disorders within the spectrum that don’t necessarily fall into binge eating, anorexia or bulimia. They can include orthorexia (obsession with healthy eating) to drunkorexia (restricting calories to get drunker and/or feel more intoxicated). You do not have to starve yourself completely or purge to qualify as having an eating disorder or a tendency towards disordered eating.
This mask is loaded with natural exfoliating acids and antioxidants. It can brighten your skin, calm breakouts, and soften the appearance of fine lines and sun damage (from the summer!)
It’s also a great way to use all those leftover pumpkin GUTS lying around after you carve. :)
Purée the fresh pumpkin pulp into a thick paste. Add the egg (this acts as a binder). If your skin is dry, stir in a splash of omega-rich almond milk and the honey. For oilier complexions, instead stir in apple cider vinegar or cranberry juice. Mix well. Apply the mask, leaving it on for 15-20 minutes, depending on your skin sensitivity. Rinse with cool water and moisturize as usual.
Tip: Plan a salad before you get this facial mask ready! You’ll only need about a tablespoon of cucumber for the mask, which means plenty left over.
Not only will this mask moisturize your skin, it will also reduce inflammation, puffiness & redness in your face.
Did you know: the term ‘cool as a cucumber’ has been around since the 1700’s.
Why It Works
Cucumbers contain compounds known to tighten pores and reduce inflammation, which is why they’re the classic choice for minimizing puffiness around the eyes.
How It Works
Blend/puree all ingredients together until creamy. Rub on your face & leave on for 15-20 minutes. Rinse off with water.
Natural Beauty - Avocado mask
This one’s easy! All you need is 1-2 slices of peachy goodness. Have the rest as a snack while you make your skin nice & smooth. :)
Why It Works
Peaches are rich sources of skin-renewing alpha-hydroxy fruit acids, which get rid of dead cells, and vitamins A and C to nourish new ones. Peach juice helps unblock pores, fight blemishes and may even lighten age spots and minimize wrinkles. Its astringent, toning effects are especially effective for oily skin.
How To Make It
For a simple skin pick-me-up, cut a slice of a juicy peach and massage the flesh on your face. Leave the juice on for 20 minutes, then rinse with warm water. Or rub the inside of the skins of a peach on your face for a few minutes at bedtime and let the juice absorb overnight.
Don’t throw out those avocado peels! Because you don’t need a lot of avocado to get the moisturizing benefit, the small amounts left over on the peels are usually enough for your whole face.
The best time to moisturize is when your skin’s already exfoliated, so try this recipe after you’ve scrubbed those dead skin cells off.
Natural Beauty - Strawberry Exfoliant
Ingredients: Only Avocado. Peels should suffice
Why It Works
Loaded with vitamins A, B, C and E, as well as potassium and fat, avocado is the perfect moisturizer. This natural soother is ideal for mature and weather-worn skin, reducing roughness, cracking and irritation. The oil found in the peel of the avocado contains a humectant, a substance that locks in moisture.
How To Make It
Take a spent avocado peel and using gentle upward strokes, lightly massage your face with the inside of the peel. You can either leave on as a nighttime moisturizer or, for daytime, wash your face with it gently, rinsing three or four times with warm water; pat dry.
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Now that summer’s almost done, this recipe seems a tad more appealing (although it’s cheaper in the summer, I prefer wearing these masks outside. The thought of wasps/bees/bugs getting all excited to be around my face totally turns me off).
Wear an old T-shirt before trying this recipe (or something you don’t mind getting dirty). Strawberry stains can be tough to get out, so if you get any on you, rinse & wash right away.
You can use this goop on your face, body or even on bikini zones: it can minimize ingrown hairs & remove dead skin cells. ATTENTION FELLAS: This exfoliant is perfect for you too! It’s great for sensitive shaved skin and can prevent breakouts.
Tip for Vegans: Make recipe with molasses instead of honey, but expect it to be a little more sticky.
Ingredients: Strawberries (about 8-9 medium sized, or 4-5 larger) & honey (molasses if vegan). Makes 2 mask mixtures.
Why It Works:Each strawberry packs a mighty dose of exfoliating vitamin C and alpha-hydroxy acids, which help remove dirt and dead skin cells. AHAs also help reduce pore size and minimize ingrown hairs due to shaving, especially important for men. Perfect for oily skin, strawberries improve texture, minimize greasiness, and encourage a healthy, radiant complexion.
How To Make It: With a fork, mash strawberries into a paste. Add 3 tbsp of honey & mix. (Be sure not to over blend or the mask will be runny.) Apply directly to your skin and let sit for a few minutes. Rinse off with water.
Common sense prevails. Finally.
Kate Moss’s ill-advised quote was SOMEHOW printed on a T-shirt for tweens. TWEENS. The quote has made the rounds over the years and is heavily quoted on eating disorder websites (p.s. it’s not true. Anyone with an eating disorder will tell you that it eats them alive, is destructive, and is literally killing them. Nothing tastes as good as NOT having an eating disorder feels).
(Why anyone would take this quote as anything other than the confession of someone with a serious illness, I don’t know. I tend to take quotes from coke heads with eating disorders/emotional issues less seriously than others I guess). Nothing against her… I don’t like girl on girl bashing for ANY reason, but I feel that using the quote in a context other than highlighting some body image issues is as dumb as drunk driving. Otherwise, people who use it are glorifying a very dangerous, life threatening, serious illness and promoting a message that’s taken the lives of millions of girls.
Eating disorders are not glamorous. They are deadly. They are brain & body cancers. Those suffering would do anything to not have the relationship they have with food & body. It takes over their lives.
Kinda shocked that anyone would have approved this for younger consumers anyways. Then again, even JC Penney seems to be lacking even the basic judgment when it comes to appropriate messages being sent to young girls. See I’m Too Pretty To Do Homework.
Either way, social media and enraged parents have been able to pull these T-shirts off the shelves, off the websites & out of the hands of tweens/teens. Both the JC Penney & Zazzle brands have nixed their controversial shirts.
Those who complained to the ASA argued it was irresponsible and could cause harm to children, because it implied being underweight was desirable.
They said there was a danger that it ‘might encourage children to develop an unhealthy body image and an unhealthy relationship with food’. The watchdog agreed, saying: ‘Because we considered the ad could condone or encourage an unsafe practice or result in physical, mental or moral harm to children, we concluded that it was irresponsible.’
It added: ‘We told Zazzle to ensure future ads were not irresponsible and, particularly where they were addressed to or depicted children, did not contain anything that was likely to condone or encourage an unsafe practice or to result in their physical, mental or moral harm.’
Zazzle responded to the initial complaints by removing the slogan from children’s T-shirts.
In the original screen advertisement for the T-shirts, young girls were seen modelling the shirts with the slogan. BEAT said: ‘Using children to model this kind of pro-anorexia product is clearly and plainly wrong.’
The group welcomed the ban, saying: ‘We are very glad that the ASA is showing some social responsibility and taking steps against messages such as this. It is very encouraging.’
… your insecurites are their most visible.
I’ve never heard someone call someone else fat, too thin, boney, disgusting, obese, or any other word that I see on my dashboard and thought ‘oh, yeah maybe’. My mind INSTANTLY goes to the person making the comments. The same goes for women who put other women down in real life. It boils down to an unaddressed insecurity.
If you notice it, think about it, obsess about it and feel strongly enough to comment on it (in sometimes rude, disgusting ways) it reveals to the person reading or hearing your comment what your insecurities are. Very occasionally, there’s a mob mentality that might factor in: you might be trying to fit in, or jump on the body hate train to gain approval of some of your peers. It’s popular to demonize the thin & the obese in equal numbers, and it’s easy to find people willing to jump on the hate train. But when you do? You’re telling the world something about yourself that you might not be intending (and taking someone else down in the process. Someone who doesn’t deserve your criticism).
I do think there are people who are too thin, too large, too this etc. But, every time one of those thoughts enters my head, it’s my own insecurity I have to deal with, or a quick observation that exits as soon as it comes. I’m self-conscious about my small boobies (I love them, but they disappeared when I lost weight and it’s a source of tiny insecurity that I’m working on). So, I notice boobs a little more than other women I know. Big boobs, small boobs, etc. It happens. But PROJECTING it outwards is like announcing to the world where my insecurities lie. Noticing is one thing. Observing is one thing. Those are internal, and you can examine your own relationship with your body based on those thoughts: you can’t control them but you can WORK with them.
Commenting and feeling the need to publicly announce that person is too_____? That’s something else. That’s projecting your insecurities outward instead of addressing & dealing with them internally.
I’m not saying this to bash you. I’m sharing this in the hopes that the next time you’re ready to press ‘send’ or you notice your language headed to ‘she’s so this’ town, you stop yourself, collect yourself and try to work on the real issue going on in your head. It’s the first step in promoting body love for everyone. ESPECIALLY yourself.
Girl on girl love & support NEEDED. Enough of this bashing/comparing bullshit. It starts with YOU.
P.S - Magazines with the titles ‘She’s too thin, she’s too fat, she has cellulite? They’re playing on your fear, YOUR insecurities, and the mob mentality to get you to BUY their magazine. Their greed is showing, and the more insecure you are, the more likely you are to buy into the messages they put out. Don’t get me wrong, Cosmo makes me giggle like you wouldn’t believe (it really should be stand-up material). I don’t know how any one takes it seriously, but I enjoy it!. But I don’t buy into their ‘you’re not good enough’ bullshit anymore.
This post is for all ladies, but specifically ladies who’s hair… well… let’s just say those who’s hair is high maintenance.
Women of African American descent are specifically addressed, because this seems to be a bigger factor in getting them in the gym than their white counterparts. Black hair & sweat… well, they don’t mix.
I can attest to this. It’s also the reason some hate going swimming in the summer. Many a summer’s day in my teens was spent with this mantra: “I’d rather be hot than mess up my hair”.
I’ve never been good at keeping up my hair, and honestly, with all the working out I do, I’m lucky if I can straighten it into something respectable once a week (half is shaved anyways, so I only have half a head to worry about). But my love for fitness FAR exceeds my love for hairdos, and if I loved my hair more I probably would have to invest more time into maintaining both it AND my fit lifestyle.
Last week, the U.S. surgeon general stopped by the spectacle known as the Bronner Bros. International Hair Show to discuss hair & health, and encourage young hair fashionistas to get their beautiful booties in the gym.
Read the interview she gave below…
TANGENT: YOU NEED TO SEE THE PICS FROM THIS HAIRSHOW! Seriously, it’s like the Lion King meets an art gallery. I’ve never seen anything like it. Read the article first, then check out the hair. To be fair, I wouldn’t wanna work out with that hair either. Click here.
What better place to talk about health than at a hair show that draws 60,000 stylists? Dr. Regina Benjamin discussed the widely held belief that black women don’t exercise because it might ruin their hairstyle. It turns out Benjamin has struggled with this issue too.
The interview has been edited for brevity.
What brings you to the hair show?
Actually it’s the perfect event. My priority as surgeon general is prevention. Everything that we do is to try to build a healthy and fit nation.
What we find when talking particularly with African American women - I’m later finding this with other women, too - was that when we talk about exercise, we hear, “I don’t want to sweat my hair back or I don’t want to mess up my hairstyle. It cost me too much to get my hair done this week.”
When United Healthcare came and talked about this last year, it was a successful at the Bronner Bros. Hair Show with 60,000 hairdressers. What better audience would be to help us find exercise-friendly hairstyles?
This is trying to encourage women to continue to exercise and be healthy and give them a way to do that without messing up their hair.
Is there evidence that this hair issue is really why some women don’t exercise or is this anecdotal?
There are some studies there.
I’ve talked to a number of women and that’s the first thing they’ll tell you. I know that was an issue for me. I didn’t want to mess up my hair. You sweat a lot in your hair and it changes your hairstyle completely.
Unlike other races and ethnic groups, you can’t wash your hair and go out. African Americans, most of us can’t do that. We need to spend a little bit more time on our hair. We need something that cuts down on getting hair back in a nice hairstyle. So I don’t think it’s something anecdotal. I’ve talked to women a lot because I’m doing this conference and it’s a real issue.
Benjamin’s office cited two studies that examined why fewer than 30% of minority women in the United States get the recommended level of exercise. The reasons were lack of time followed by “economic constraints, major life changes or traumas, safety issues, weather and environment, the hassle of personal care such as showering and keeping hair looking good,” according to the American Journal of Public Health.
Has this hair issue become an easy crutch for not exercising?
It’s an easy excuse, but it’s a real excuse.
If you go out and spend $40-50 to get your hair done, you don’t want to go out and get it all sweaty and wet that afternoon before you got to show it off.
Other ethnic groups would come up and say the same thing. I’ve heard it from Hispanics. I’ve heard it from a couple of my older white patients that I have at home. They’re saying I get my hair done every weekend- I don’t want to be exercising after I get my hair done.
I don’t think it’s limited to African American women.
How do you deal with this issue?
I exercise at night. That’s my solution: Exercise at night so when I finish, I can be at home. I’m a night person anyway.
One of the biggest eye openers I’ve had this year was the extent to which women hate their bodies.
Body hate is so much more pervasive than I thought. So much more destructive. So much more to do with WOMEN than with men, or society. And no woman is immune. Not a single one.
At first, I thought it was the size zero models. It’s not. I thought it was celebrity pressure, or the way we value thinness in our society. A little bit, maybe, but that’s only the TIP of the iceberg. It’s deeper than that. It’s so much deeper. Because whether we’re thin, fat, or anywhere in the middle: women will find something to hate about themselves. And we HATE on each other’s bodies in such brutal ways that it’s embarrassing. And yes, body hate comes in the form of comparison too. Whenever you compare yourself to someone else, you’re telling your body ‘you aren’t good enough’.
Every time I hear people comment on other people’s bodies, I cringe. It’s making the problem worse. And yes, while she might look too thin, she may be fine. Or stressed. Or healthy. Or sick. Who the fuck cares? When I hear people comment on how thin someone is, it’s almost always a sign that they hate themselves a little. We only put other people down to lift ourselves up. It’s projecting. (I’m talking about celebrities/models/magazine covers/tumblr photos mostly, but this happens with families & friends too).
Disclaimer: There IS a difference between commenting on someone’s body and WORRYING about their health: family members may be concerned if someone’s health is deteriorating or is showing signs of an eating disorder. The way someone looks is NOT the best indicator of health or a disorder, there are a lot of OTHER symptoms to look for (depression, withdrawal, attitude changes, health indicators aside from weight loss). It’s okay to be WORRIED about someone, but don’t comment on their body. Those dealing with eating disorders typically HATE their bodies already: telling them they’re disgusting? That’s about YOU. And that can add fuel to their ‘I’m already disgusting’ fire. Knock off the body talk all together: Do’s & Don’t’s of eating disorders: http://www.angelfire.com/bc/peacelovehope/rules.html
Same goes for those that are overweight. I watch women who are otherwise confident, hesistate to wear shorts or bikinis: NOT because they don’t want to but because they’re scared of being judged. BY OTHER WOMEN. Women worrying about being called sluts, while simultaneously trying to look sexy, knowing that at any moment they could be judged by other ladies. Women who un-tag themselves out of photos with their friends, cause they think their arms look fat, or they don’t like the way their chin looks.
WHAT A WHACKLOAD OF CRAZY.
I found a post today that I thought was important to share. And while it’s not the most ’ post-ful’ day I’ve had, I think this is an important way to cap it off.
I’ll be back, in full swing, tomorrow. But read this. Read it a few times. And take something away from it. Please.
And let’s make tomorrow a more accepting world for ladies to live in. Cause the extra hate just keeps us ALL down.
Much. Love. Read on.
The following was excerpted from Body Image: Feeling Like You’re Never Enough | A Black Girl’s Guide To Weight Loss
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It’s been a watermelon kind of a summer, and lately I’m hitting sales all over the place (tangent: carrying home 3-4 watermelons on a 15 minute walk? Fabulous cardio). Loved seeing this article in my feed this morning!
5 Do It Yourself Facial Mask Recipes featuring Watermelon.
Watermelon Facial Masks Recipes: 5 DIY Facials For Every Skin Type via The Beauty Bean
Watermelon isn’t just a juicy summer treat. Rather, it’s also a great skin saver for (almost) any skin condition from sun damage to blemishes and everything in between! With its 93% water content and its multi-vitamin combination of vitamins A, B6 and C, it will not only hydrate your skin, but also repair and protect your skin too. Follow the below recipes to see how to make watermelon juice work best for your particular skin needs.
For sun damaged skin Soak cotton pads with fresh watermelon juiceand apply to any sunburned areas. Let the juice sit on your skin for 15 minutes before rinsing off with cool water.
For glowing, softer skin Mix 1 teaspoon watermelon juice with 1 teaspoon plain Greek Yogurt. The lactic acid and enzymes in the yogurt will help gently exfoliate and purify while the watermelon hydrates and heals. Apply the mask to your face and neck for 10 minutes before rinsing off.
For aging skin Mix 1 teaspoon watermelon juice with 1 teaspoon of mashed avocado. The avocado is rich in omega-3 fatty acids, which helps plump the skin, as well as vitamin C and vitamin E, which act as antioxidants for a powerful anti-aging combination. Apply to your face and let sit for 20 minutes before rinsing with warm water.
Have leftover champagne? Make these skin treatments too!
For dry skin mix 1 teaspoon watermelon juice with 1 teaspoon organic honey. Honey is a natural humectant, meaning it will help bring moisture deep into your skin, making the watermelon juice work double duty in hydrating your skin. Apply to your face and let sit for 15-20 minutes before rinsing with warm water.
For inflamed, acne-prone skin Mix 1 teaspoon watermelon juice with 1 teaspoon of mashed Banana. The banana, which contains vitamins B2, B6 and B12, will help to reduce skin inflammation while simultaneously making the skin supple and soft all as the watermelon works its magic too as an oil-free moisturizer. Apply to your face and let sit for 10-15 minutes before rinsing with warm water.
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