I am surprised by how much sex I have had in my life that I didn’t want to have. Not exactly what’s considered “real” rape, or “date” rape, although...”
There IS a middle ground! Your fitness does not have to be meticulously planned and scheduled. It does not have to coincide with counting macro-nutrient ratios, points or calories. It does not have to be what you live and breathe from the moment you wake up. The “other choice” doesn’t have to be doing nothing, or waiting until you are ready to take on all of the above, all at once… forever!
Some people thrive off of macro-nutrient profiles and specific exercise schedules. That’s awesome! There is nothing wrong with loving those things. But if you feel overwhelmed at all of that, or it isn’t your passion— rather you just want to work on being more fit and feeling better… you don’t have to do all of that.
I’m passionate about my fitness. It helps me keep depression at bay, it makes me feel calm when I need it and amped up when I need the jolt. I do it because it feeds me, but I don’t need to stress about it. Stress about my stress reliever? No thanks. I do what feels good, I do what suits my day, I have rough plans and see what happens. And sometimes I go on kicks where I’m curious about all of the above stuff and I do a grip of planning. But usually I don’t.
There is room in being a fit, healthy, active person for, “I think I just need a walk today” and for “I was going to lift but I just want to dance.” And thinking about it this way, instead of stressing about what would be the “perfect’ or “right” way leaves room for it to enrich your life instead of mock you. Pretty cool.