I should probably start by saying this isn’t a post in defense of plastic surgery. Or anti-plastic surgery. This is a post about body love: something I feel passionately about and something everyone deserves. With or without implants.
Everyone’s entitled to their own opinions on plastic surgery: it’s a highly personal choice and not for everyone. While I do believe it’s gotten excessive (understatement), I believe the best way to address it is by pumping out some body love. I’m hoping that by posting reminders to love ourselves as we are, accept our “flaws” (though I don’t like that word) and focus on our health and happiness, that future versions of ourselves won’t feel as much pressure to “perfect” themselves through surgical procedures.
What you will NEVER see me doing is bullying those who’ve chosen to take that road. I will never call them fake. Or plastic. Or screwed up. Or weird. Or ugly. Or tell them that they “ruined” themselves. Or that they looked better before. Or that they are mutilated. Or not “real”. (ALL of those comments were taken from a comment section of a popular page I follow with regards to a specific person’s face/body).
I have dear, amazing and awesome friends who’ve chosen to have “work” done. Aside from needing to buy new clothes or looking a little different, they are essentially the same on the inside. Complete with the same body image issues they had before.
Much in the same way those who lose TONS of weight still see themselves as an “overweight” person in their heads, plastic surgery doesn’t change how a person feels on the inside. That’s a mental process, an attitude change, and takes more than just a physical change to address. Some people make those attitude changes and learn to love their bodies. Some do not. I can’t tell by looking at a person how they feel about the body they’re in. Bullying them or calling them names simply doesn’t make sense to me.
Our bodies change over time, either through surgery, scars, life happenings, illness etc. We will look slightly different tomorrow than we do today. But at all times, in all states, we are still people. With feelings. We are as real with implants as we are without. Plastic surgery doesn’t turn people into emotionless robots who are immune to insults. For many who’ve chosen plastic surgery, it’s a life-changing, hard, painful process that they are hoping will make them feel a little happier. The way I see it, they are perhaps a little more sensitive to body bullying than many other people.
I’m hoping that more people will learn to love & accept their bodies, and that includes those who’ve had plastic surgery. This is their body NOW, and they deserve to feel good about it. Everyone deserves to feel good about their body.
You may not be a fan of plastic surgery. And that may make you feel like a better person. But tearing down someone else’s body isn’t a moral stance or prerogative: it is being MEAN. It’s belittling them. Bullying them. They LIVE in those bodies, no matter what they look like. That’s their home, for better or worse, and whether or not you like it.
If you’re passionate about curbing the plastic surgery trend, post body love reminders. De-mystify photo-shopping practices. Accept and love your own “flaws” so others can see how it’s done. Buy into body positive magazines, sites, products and companies.
And above all else, don’t bully those who’ve taken that road. There’s no need. :)