Hey there,
We all collect fat differently: don’t compare to other girls! Deep ends & shallow ends change from woman to woman; where you collect your fat most won’t be where they collect there’s and vice versa. (The grass is always greener: there are people who would kill for your curves I’m sure). At the end of the day, you have to love & live with the body you’re in, and the challenges/obstacles it brings.
If your pelvis & pooch are your ‘deep’ ends, it means that those areas are the last place where you’ll notice fat loss. We lose fat at the same rate everywhere and can’t spot reduce. But you can make changes to your diet & training that boost fat loss. The more muscle you have - remember it takes up MUCH less room - the more fat you burn everywhere. Fat loss comes down to a mix or cardio & strength training, clean eating, and keeping yourself stress free & rested.
I had a client who didn’t lose her pooch until we started training her back, legs & chest - the extra muscle along with a clean diet helped her hit that area for the first time in years (she’d already hit her weight/body goal, but that pooch never changed). Changing your diet around to include more lean proteins, veggies & less sugar/processed foods can also help overall fat loss. It’s a lot of tweaking, and a gradual process, but it’s do-able.
Aside from diet/fitness advice, the most important thing I want you to take away is NOT TO LET IT AFFECT YOUR SELF-ESTEEM. There are many, MANY different types of bodies out there, and when we start comparing ourselves to body types that are NOT ours, it’s easy (and silly) to feel demotivated. Your body is unique, and it’s needs are unique. There are things you’ve got working for you that you’re probably not paying attention to. You are beautiful the way you are, and millions of women share your body type. If you’d like to target/change/improve the things you don’t like, you need to start doing things differently. But loving yourself along the way makes the process a whole lot easier.
Remember that change takes time & effort, but you should try to enjoy it! Find new classes you like, try new recipes, get a goal that’s not ‘looks’ related (like training for a 5K, or mastering pushups etc). The more effort you put in (and the SMARTER you work - not harder, but smarter), the more changes you will see. If something doesn’t work, try something else. Be honest with yourself, keep your expectations realistic, do your best and pat yourself on the back for every small victory along the way.
Hope this helps a little, but body lovin’ is a process that does take time & a decision to make loving yourself a priority! You’re in charge of what you let affect your self-esteem and what you don’t. Remind yourself that you’re worthy, beautiful and doing your best on a daily basis. Then go out there, and kill it. :)
xo